I've posted once before about my husband's constant desire to be taken out in the car - he feels trapped in the house and thinks he's been stuck inside for weeks though in fact we are out every day. We're doing miles a day... not really difficult for me, but time consuming, rather tedious and not what I'd choose either for myself or for the environment.

However.... as the nights draw in, I can't face doing these trips in the dark (narrow lanes, oncoming blinding LED lights etc). I have some avoidance/distraction strategies, all of which have me on edge for the whole evening,, but these aren't going to work for 5 hours once it's dark at 4pm.

I think one of the problems is that he's bored. He's never had hobbies or been one to get engaged in anything much, and he no longer does any of the few things he used to do (reading, following the news, su doku, following rugby). He used to go to the pub a lot - he still will but only with me, and frequently it's spoiled by paranoia He doesn't want to listen to music, will watch films but often with the sound off, not interested in audio books, won't go out to anything like coffee mornings or evening get-togethers, won't go out for a walk (with me or alone). Anything I suggest he doesn't want to do and I get a flat (sometimes angry) NO! If I cook a meal hoping it'll create interest and take up some of the evening he says he's not hungry and puts it in the fridge.

He has anosagnosia (lack of awareness there's anything wrong) so doesn't see the need for any help, new company, 'care', would certainly never attend anything related to dementia or groups.

Is anyone dealing with something similar? Any ideas? Strategies? Any help would really be appreciated.