I'd be worried too. It's one thing for a son in America to perhaps ask a local to the care home friend to pop in and just see how his father is doing, then report back. But regular visits strike me as very odd. By the time a person needs residential care they're often quite poorly and, to be blunt, not the best company. My mum can still often follow a conversation but topics are limited and her memory, not surprisingly, is very poor so lots of our chats end up repeated. Some days her attention span can be one sentence long. I visit because she's my mum, but I wouldn't start visiting some random person with dementia.

Maybe this woman is a lot kinder than I am but I'm an old cynic. As you say jen4jenuk2000, your dad doesn't seem to be getting anything from these visits and I doubt that this woman is either (sorry :eek: ) so something else has to be going on.

I had a very illuminating chat with the manager of the care home my aunt's in because of a potential problem we were having with a distant relative who suddenly took an interest (only short lived as the aunt wasn't actually on her death bed so any inheritances have to wait for now... ), and she said that from time to time they do find a resident with a relative pushing a pen into their hand and paperwork ready to sign, so that kind of thing does go on. I'm not saying this is the case here but you never know!

Our situation was handled very well. The distant relative was going to be told by the staff that the aunt was too ill for visitors she really didn't know, but, like I said, I don't think we'll be seeing this particular cousin until the reading of the will anyway.